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The Rising Man Podcast

Welcome to “The Rising Man Podcast,” a platform where amazing men from all walks of life come to share their personal stories about the journey from boy to man, the challenges, triumphs, and insights they’ve experienced, and what they’ve learned along the way. Here we dive deep into masculine culture to identify what it really means to be a man in the modern world and to extract tips and tools to help EVERY man rise into greatness and become the man he is destined to be.

Feb 13, 2020

Our guest today is Robert Schwenkler, a deep somatic coach and co-founder of The Brotherhood Community. Robert has been on both sides of the confidence spectrum, earning him a unique opportunity to teach other men how to connect honestly.  His dating wisdom requires authentically owning our desires, leaning into discomfort, and leading with appreciation and curiosity. This episode is about more than dating for sex or romance, it contains keys for having tight knit, loving relationships with women in any context. 

Show Notes: 

  • An integrated man has access to all his emotions and parts - including grief, joy, and childlike wonder.
  • What is the dating landscape in 2020?
  • The challenges single men face in today’s dating world 
  • “Will I look like a creep?” and “Will I get rejected?” are common fearful thoughts
  • One of the first steps is getting clear on what you want from sex and romance.
  • How important is sex to you and your life?
  • Your sex makes her life immeasurably better, and vice versa. 
  • Women need to feel safe for sexual and romantic exploration
  • Why hiding your sexual desires makes you unsafe.
  • This can’t be done at home behind a screen, face to face interactions are a must
  • Fill your cup with other men - get guidance, wisdom, and express your insecurities. 
  • It’s if not uncomfortable, then how useful is it?
  • How does a man figure out what he wants?
  • Expressing and owning our desires is SAFE
  • Why approaching a woman feels like death
  • Flirting is joyful play, there is nothing to expect from it
  • “What do I say?” - one of the first points of confusion for most men

Connect with Robert:


Co-leader of The Brotherhood Community  check their website for men’s workshops, online coaching and programs, and much more. 


For more info on his dating program, check


Personal website with coaching info and all things Robert


Instagram: @rrschwenkler and @thebrotherhoodcommunity

Facebook: Robert Raphael Schwenkler


Rising Man Links:

The Rising Man Fire Circles - our online platform where men come together and put into practice all the greatness talked about on the podcast. You’ll find accountability, support, friendship, and challenges all designed to stimulate growth and healing. If you feel called to something greater, reach out!

Initiations - Compass Program - a 4 day 4 night Vision Fast in the wilderness, with preparation and incorporation calls in the months before and after. 

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